My So Called Life - The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

Embrace life -- both the sweet days and the bitter...embrace the joy and the sadness...the successes and the defeats -- for all of these things, both good and bad, have made you who you are.

Tuesday, February 02, 2010

Is Equality actually Equal? - Maybe for some...

"No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States...nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws."

The equal protection clause can be found in the Fourteenth Amendment of the Constitution...

I wonder how many people actually know this statement is in the Constitution....but does it really matter...we already have law after law after law that denies equality to groups of people...we suppose to be the land of the free, the home of the brave...the land of equality... a country found on the principles of Christian love taught by Jesus...

Yet how free are we....

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal..." I wonder if people actually believe this...whether "rights" are being limited based on race, sexual orientation, or religion, etc...maybe in society, it would be better read as, "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men in the "majority opinion" are created equal...

Because really that is rea
lly what "rights" are...it is whatever the majority decides "in its good grace" to grant to those in the minority....or to themselves....

I am 31 years old...I have a successful career...a pension...a profit sharing plan...retirement fund...a family that loves me....friends that adore and care for me...a good place I call home...a great car...a puppy...

sounds just like you eh? like the good ole American Dream...

Well....I am also gay...and that alone limits me on over 1400 rights in the state of Texas...that includes both the 300 or so state's rights and 1100 federal rights...

Imagine that...if you are straight and reading this, just by the simple fact that you marry someone you will have 1400 MORE rights than me...

I mean honestly...whether you are for gay marriage or against it...any intelligent person cannot tell me that is fair...equal...or free...

And I can tell you....the majority of those 1400 rights are not spelled out in the bible...many of them are unique rights to our culture and time...

So if you ever have to make medical decisions for your spouse in the hospital, or pass on health benefits, or social security benefits, or choose to adopt an abandoned child who needs someone to love them or any of the other 1400 rights you have...be thankful..because in America...in the 21st century as it turns out...depending upon who you are...you may just be MORE free than me...

And that is truly sad....

Monday, February 01, 2010

Humanity - A Dying Trait

“Never take a person's dignity: it is worth everything to them, and nothing to you.” Frank Barron

How often have we attacked someone for no reason other than to embarrass or tear them down to nothing more than a speck...a grain of sand...something so small and so insignificant, that no matter how small we are or feel, compared to them, we will feel or seem bigger, better, and badder than the biggest bad-asses this world has ever seen....

Hmmm....make sense...???

In my estimation it takes more energy to be negative than to be positive...maybe I am wrong...maybe some people are built for negativity...built to attack...built to tear down...built to manipulate and reduce the confidence of others into nothing more than a melting lump of playdoh....

I actually feel sad for them...they are the same people who hide their candlelight and do not share it with others to light their wicks, for fear that lighting someone else's candle will put out their own...little do they know that by lighting someone else's candle, in building up someone else you magnify and increase your own light...

It can take a lifetime to repair that which can be torn down in one second with the opening of one's lips and the passing of words through one's mouth...and yet the damage done is exponential in comparison to the effort used in speaking them...

I guess I just do not understand...I mean I know that we have all had those moments when we have been far less than perfect...those moments when we have attacked, yelled, screamed, destroyed, and hurt others....for some of us, those moments are the exception...for others, it seems to be the rule...

But what is gained...what is gained in reducing the life of someone else into a soundbite that gets a few laughs...a soundbite that may or may not be true..that may or may not have any actual relevance to their life...

Where is the humanity in that....where is the humanity in many things nowadays....