Out Of My League - Such A Nice Guy!

I went on a date tonight. This guy physically is everything I am naturally attracted to. He was taller than me...a little bigger than me. He had a goatee which was incredibly attractive.
So here is his story - the highlights...
He was a complete gentleman (He even paid for dinner). He picked me up. He was a great conversationalist. He has traveled all over the world and all over the United States. He is successful in his career. He has culture, experience, success, and a lot of money. In short, he intimidates the hell out of me!
I felt so nervous the entire time on our date because I could not fathom why he was on a date with me. We met off the internet so he had never seen me in person before (he had seen my pictures though). So in my mind I was constantly wondering why the date was going through. Surely there are people out there who he should be going out with instead of me.
I was so nervous and felt so out of my league that I had him drop me off at the back entrance of my apt so he would not have to pull into my complex because I felt embarrassed about where I lived.
I truly felt like I was not good enough for him. But it wasn't anything that he did or said that made me feel that way. It was all me.
9 Comments:
At 10:59 PM,
Brettcajun said…
Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. Maybe you are exactly what he is looking for? Was he looking for someone as successful as he is? Two Type A personalities may not go well together. You may be exactly what he is looking for Matthew. Please don't sell yourself short.
At 11:38 PM,
Joel said…
Whoa buddy. You need to come out if that! you are attractive, intelligent and a nice guy. Just because a guy has moeny doesn't mean he is anything better than you. I am sure he felt the same jitters for otehr reasons. We all have some self-esteem issues on some level.
hold your head high and be proud of who you are!
At 8:50 PM,
M said…
Sangroncito - ha ha - words of wisdom man..:-)
At 11:03 AM,
Brettcajun said…
Oh but I do protest Sangroncito... *** I *** am the center of the universe and you mere mortals orbit me. ;)
At 8:27 PM,
Anonymous said…
I know how you feel, Matthew. Sad as it may sound, I won't date at all for that very same reason.
At 3:14 AM,
Anonymous said…
Ok, I'm only going to say this one more time.. call his ass up and ask him out on a 2nd date... and let him make the decision about whether you're good enough or not ok?? please??
At 1:27 PM,
sp13 said…
Wow - you're being a little too hard on yourself here. Having met you, I found you to be pretty much all of the things you said about the other guy. Money doesn't "make" anyone - it only gives them certain advantages over others - but definitely should never be used as a comparison.
As for your living situation, I actually think it is pretty smart of you to not dump a ton of money into a place while you are getting a feel for where you are, and where you want to be. Contrary to what you think - I looked at it as a smart move on your part, and it really isn't a horrific place anyway. I never felt like I was going to get "mugged" or anything.
I agree with hbjock, call him up and ask for a 2nd date.
At 1:36 PM,
Jim said…
Apparently I am going to have to come to ATL and kick you :)
You are good enough, unfortunately noone can make you see that but yourself. You'll get there, Matt.
At 12:19 AM,
steve'swhirlyworld said…
Allow yourself to be liked by the nice guy. I hope you called for another date.
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