My So Called Life - The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

Embrace life -- both the sweet days and the bitter...embrace the joy and the sadness...the successes and the defeats -- for all of these things, both good and bad, have made you who you are.

Wednesday, May 31, 2006

Out Of My League - Such A Nice Guy!

I have heard it many times before and I have even told this to people before. Having money does not make a person any better. And you are doesn't. But it definitely adds some distinct advantages.

I went on a date tonight. This guy physically is everything I am naturally attracted to. He was taller than me...a little bigger than me. He had a goatee which was incredibly attractive.

So here is his story - the highlights...

He was a complete gentleman (He even paid for dinner). He picked me up. He was a great conversationalist. He has traveled all over the world and all over the United States. He is successful in his career. He has culture, experience, success, and a lot of money. In short, he intimidates the hell out of me!

I felt so nervous the entire time on our date because I could not fathom why he was on a date with me. We met off the internet so he had never seen me in person before (he had seen my pictures though). So in my mind I was constantly wondering why the date was going through. Surely there are people out there who he should be going out with instead of me.

I was so nervous and felt so out of my league that I had him drop me off at the back entrance of my apt so he would not have to pull into my complex because I felt embarrassed about where I lived.

I truly felt like I was not good enough for him. But it wasn't anything that he did or said that made me feel that way. It was all me.


  • At 10:59 PM, Blogger BRETTCAJUN said…

    Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. Maybe you are exactly what he is looking for? Was he looking for someone as successful as he is? Two Type A personalities may not go well together. You may be exactly what he is looking for Matthew. Please don't sell yourself short.

  • At 11:38 PM, Blogger Scotty said…

    Whoa buddy. You need to come out if that! you are attractive, intelligent and a nice guy. Just because a guy has moeny doesn't mean he is anything better than you. I am sure he felt the same jitters for otehr reasons. We all have some self-esteem issues on some level.

    hold your head high and be proud of who you are!

  • At 5:30 PM, Blogger Sangroncito said…

    I remember having feelings like that, too. Now I´ve finally realized I'm the center of the universe and so I no longer suffer feelings of inferiority!

  • At 8:50 PM, Blogger Matthew said…

    Sangroncito - ha ha - words of wisdom man..:-)

  • At 11:03 AM, Blogger BRETTCAJUN said…

    Oh but I do protest Sangroncito... *** I *** am the center of the universe and you mere mortals orbit me. ;)

  • At 8:27 PM, Anonymous sam said…

    I know how you feel, Matthew. Sad as it may sound, I won't date at all for that very same reason.

  • At 3:14 AM, Anonymous hbjock said…

    Ok, I'm only going to say this one more time.. call his ass up and ask him out on a 2nd date... and let him make the decision about whether you're good enough or not ok?? please??

  • At 1:27 PM, Blogger sp13 said…

    Wow - you're being a little too hard on yourself here. Having met you, I found you to be pretty much all of the things you said about the other guy. Money doesn't "make" anyone - it only gives them certain advantages over others - but definitely should never be used as a comparison.

    As for your living situation, I actually think it is pretty smart of you to not dump a ton of money into a place while you are getting a feel for where you are, and where you want to be. Contrary to what you think - I looked at it as a smart move on your part, and it really isn't a horrific place anyway. I never felt like I was going to get "mugged" or anything.

    I agree with hbjock, call him up and ask for a 2nd date.

  • At 1:36 PM, Blogger Jim said…

    Apparently I am going to have to come to ATL and kick you :)

    You are good enough, unfortunately noone can make you see that but yourself. You'll get there, Matt.

  • At 12:19 AM, Blogger steve'swhirlyworld said…

    Allow yourself to be liked by the nice guy. I hope you called for another date.


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