Fake Politeness - The Woes Of The First Date Disasters

I am sure we have all experienced this at some point. We go on a date with someone and have a great time. There is good conversation. The chemistry seems to be there. You have a lot in common. You have just an overall good time.

Then you never hear from the person again.

It is one of those mysteries of nature. You call and leave a voicemail. No return call. You send a text message just to follow up and say hi. No return text.

You are left to wonder what went wrong. You come to the conclusion that "Maybe he just wasn't into me."

This scenario happened to me except it had an addendum. A prologue if you will. But my scenario taught me that the biggest mystery is not in the question of "why did he not call me back." The biggest mystery lies in the "person" himself.

So a few weeks passed after what I thought was a good date and guess who I run into outside my gym. He was standing outside of a car talking to a friend and as I passed by in my car he smiled at me and waived. I honestly did not even recognize him b/c I had not seen him in a few weeks. I thought to myself that this guy had me confused with someone else.

So I circle back around and park and he smiles really big and waves at me and waives me over again. I don't respond b/c I don't recognize him and there was someone else over in my direction so I thought he must be talking to that person.

He then looks my direction waives again and smiles and says hi and asks me how I am. I respond with a kind nod thinking he has me confused with someone else.

Then I see him get into his car and I actually recognize the car...how sad right? lol I recognize the car and not the person.

Then I remember who it is....and the moment I recognized who it was I was immediately baffled by this question.

Why did he act so chummy with me now yet not return my phone call or my text message. If he had wanted to be friends, then surely at least a return call would be in order. Even if the call is just to say "hey let's be friends", it would still be the polite thing to do.

I just don't understand guys that ignore you after a date but when they see you in public want to act like they didn't ignore in the first place. They want to act like you have this great history and are friends.

I honestly have nothing to say to this guy. Not because I hate him or anything like that. But if he did not have the decency to even call me back to try and be friends or even casual acquaintances then I am definitely not taking the time and effort to fake it in public for him.