So Shy They Can't Talk - It Can Be Painful
So what do you do when the person you are having dinner with says NOTHING.
And I dont mean nothing in the sense that they arent saying anything important. I mean literally nothing. Not a sound. Not a peep. Not a damn syllable or even breath. It can absolutely painful.
I recently experience that with this hot guy. I have always thought he was so damn hot. We had dinner tonight but he didnt talk at all. He did not ask me one single question. I asked all the questions and kept the conversation going. When I stopped talking the conversation ended.
Now after we finished eating, I got the impression that he would have hung out more but there isnt a lot to do on a Wednesday night in Dallas. He told me to call him and suggested at one point we could do something on Friday since there wasnt a lot going on tonight. He truly is a nice guy, but it totally threw me off....
But I could not help but wonder during dinner...was he not curious to learn anything about me? Or is he just that painfully shy? hmmmm......
what do you guys think?
And I dont mean nothing in the sense that they arent saying anything important. I mean literally nothing. Not a sound. Not a peep. Not a damn syllable or even breath. It can absolutely painful.
I recently experience that with this hot guy. I have always thought he was so damn hot. We had dinner tonight but he didnt talk at all. He did not ask me one single question. I asked all the questions and kept the conversation going. When I stopped talking the conversation ended.
Now after we finished eating, I got the impression that he would have hung out more but there isnt a lot to do on a Wednesday night in Dallas. He told me to call him and suggested at one point we could do something on Friday since there wasnt a lot going on tonight. He truly is a nice guy, but it totally threw me off....
But I could not help but wonder during dinner...was he not curious to learn anything about me? Or is he just that painfully shy? hmmmm......
what do you guys think?
4 Comments:
At 12:57 AM,
Jim said…
Yeck, that. I've had that happen too. Sometimes its insecurity, sometimes its just a total lack of social skill.
This kinda ties back to your confidence post, doesnt it?
At 4:08 AM,
purpletwinkie said…
I've been in your shoes. Years ago I met a guy that I really liked. We talked on the phone/online, but when out at dinner he was nearly silent. It was so odd and a turn-off to me. I realized that he was very shy and uneasy in public (like "hello I am GAY" was printed on his forehead). We lived near each other and continued to hang out. There was no romance, but we became good friends and that shyness slowly dissipated.
At 12:40 PM,
Brettcajun said…
Hmmm... perhaps he had a lot on his mind and was thinking a lot. The one great thing about seeing GUYS is that most of them do not chatter away like a bunch of hens (like females do). I cannot deal with a Chatty Kathy, but total silence is kind of spooky. I feel for you. It must have been very bizarre!
At 3:33 PM,
Anonymous said…
I have actually had a date go that same way and thing is i know the guy was attracted to me and everything. I am a good communicator though and i need someone i am dating or in a relationship with to also be a good communicator. The guy i dated also shouldnt have been shy since we had known each other for like a year before we dated so he should have been able to talk to me.
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