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Wednesday, July 06, 2005

Confidence - The Ultimate Sexual Quality?

So i was talking to this guy online tonight who I have seen out at the clubs for years. We even ran in the same circle for a while a few years back. Well tonight he tells me the following:

Him Typing : " i wanted to point out that you had a certain bit of confidence about you when i saw you on saturday. I've met you before and didn't notice it. I really liked it..."

For all of our weight lifting, our running, our focus on clothes, etc....could it be that simply having confidence goes even further.....

What do you guys think?

What matters more? Physical or Confidence

And which is more attractive to you?

13 Comments:

  • At 1:57 AM, Blogger Always_Adventuring said…

    I'm not a guy, but from a female standpoint, nothing is more of a turn-on in any situation than a man who is confident in himself, secure in who he is. Not cocky, arrogant, or self-centered, just a healthy vibrant confidence and satisfaction in who he is.

     
  • At 1:58 AM, Blogger Always_Adventuring said…

    I'm very glad I stumbled across your blog. I've created a blogging project called "50 U.S. Blogs" and have linked to your blog. If this is a problem, leave a comment on my blog letting me know and I'll find another blog to put there to represent your state. Be sure to visit your state and any others that interest you, maybe you'll find a new blog to read. Thanks for your support! Happy Blogging!

     
  • At 2:15 AM, Blogger Matthew said…

    WOW - Always - Thanks - I am honored you chose my blog to represent Texas - woohoo!!! :-) You are a sweetie!

     
  • At 10:11 AM, Blogger Jim said…

    Confidence always wins for me!

     
  • At 1:26 PM, Anonymous Jon said…

    A confident (but not-cocky) smile + eye-contact > 10 hours in the gym.

     
  • At 3:33 PM, Blogger Always_Adventuring said…

    As I previously shared with you, your blog was selected randomly to represent your state in my blog project "50 U.S. Blogs". The project is being expanded. I'd like to invite you to join us in doing a weekly focus on each state, starting with Alabama, where each blog owner can share about their state and their life, whether it be personal experiences, anecdotes, facts, or links to important areas in their state. In an effort to get that started, and to make the process easier, I need to collect everyone's contact information, namely email address and willingness to participate. Of course, authors are allowed to decline participation but that means I woud unfortunately have to seek another blog to represent their state, as I must continue to treat each blog the same to avoid an issue with favoritism. Please include the state you represent with your correspondence. Please email me from your personal email address where you with to receive correspondence related to this project and express your desire to participate or not. My email address is alwaysadventuring@gmail.com and I'm on Yahoo Instant messenger service as always_adventuring. I am not using any other services or user names for this project. Thank you very much for your support. Happy Blogging!

     
  • At 4:34 PM, Anonymous Brad said…

    confidence is based on how other have treated us in the past in some respects, thats why we are more confident around certain people than others. But all in all confidence in attractive, but arrogance and being jugemental is not.

     
  • At 4:43 PM, Blogger Schlitz25 said…

    i dont know, i dont think its confidence any more, its charisma...that "it" factor. I think that people who have charisma are naturally confident or comfortable with self.

    i say that to say, i have met many self assured confident folks, who are not necessarily arrogrant, but they didnt really have much to be confident about...I wasnt drawn to the confidence...for me- my vote is charisma.

     
  • At 6:44 PM, Blogger purpletwinkie said…

    Physical attributes are pretty obvious. That certain something that draws your attention to someone—say a great smile or the absolutely marvelous ass on the guy I saw at Starbucks yesterday (I found it hard to take my eyes off this guy).

    For me, the confidence thing is a little different. I am definitely attracted to confident people, but it usually means getting to know them for a bit, where the physical can be immediate.

    If I had to choose though, confidence would win over the long haul.

     
  • At 7:27 PM, Blogger Matthew said…

    Hmmm - I am conflicted - I dont know which would win out - I think in the end confidence would win out for me as well

     
  • At 9:22 PM, Blogger Scotty said…

    CONFIDENCE for sure. I saw this guy this weekend who was not much of a looker and he was surrounded by guys because he had confidence. I was truly amazed and around our campfire we all discussed him as opposed to the hot guy who was not confident and seemed no one was really giving him any attention. It was very interesting to say the least. We ALL noticed the guy who was "charasmatic" so to speak.

     
  • At 10:54 AM, Blogger Schlitz25 said…

    Ok, im throwing a wrench again...i would say the confidence/charisma thing only wins IF the guy is remotely in your genre of attraction. What i mean is if you take two men who are in your general genre of attraction and one is more confident then he would prolly win.

    But Im sure no one is saying all the way around confidence wins right??? Lets be honest, as gay men everyday we classify each other! Who hasnt been rejected cause they are not a certain type...

    I can tell you one thing...im pretty cute, and self assured, but that aint changin the profiles that i read on line that say "white only" "no blacks, fems, or fats..."

    To answer your question, "which is more attractive to you" in that case it would be physical right?

    maybe im stating the obvious...probably. just a thought, dont get huffy.

     
  • At 2:17 PM, Blogger Matthew said…

    why would we get huffy - i think there is some truth in that!

     

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