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Saturday, November 25, 2006

Surrounded By Groups Of Friends - A Little Bit Of Envy

Each and every time I come to Starbucks, I am surrounded by groups of people who are laughing and joking and talking. They are smiling, frowning, discussing, chatting, connecting, and enjoying each other's presence.

I am always watching...alone.

I am envious because I want what they have.

A solid group of friends in my life to laugh with, joke with, connect with, and live life with.

Sometimes I feel like I lack that...and I do not know why

I have some very close friends in life...a few best friend scattered across the land in various states and I am thankful for them...but sometimes I long for that group of friends that has always eluded me.

Maybe that is not how my life is meant to be...and that is ok...

14 Comments:

  • At 1:36 AM, Blogger kevin said…

    Hey mate,
    I know it can be a bit daunting sitting in Starbucks alone but sometimes it is good to sit still and reflect. I think everyone desires a good group of friends that can go out for coffee every few days but for most this isnt able to happen. I love Starbucks coffee though. They are only starting to invade New Zealand.

    I hope from reading your blog, you have settled into your new appartment.

    Wishing you a great day, and if i lived closer i would buy you a coffee in Starbucks and have a chat.

    Wishing you a great weekend.
    Kevin in New Zealand.

     
  • At 6:23 AM, Blogger Cian said…

    Just imagine the potential drama you could be missing. Oi! Best watch desparate housewives instead. ;)

     
  • At 8:07 AM, Blogger Sorted Lives said…

    Thanks for stopping by. I knew you were taking a break. Got caught up on your blog yesterday. The next time I am in Atlanta, we will go to Starbucks and yuck it up!!! Take care

     
  • At 9:55 AM, Blogger steve'swhirlyworld said…

    It sounds like you have the same issue as me - friends out of state, quiet time at Starbucks.

     
  • At 11:35 AM, Blogger Scotty said…

    I know that feeling. Seems all our friends have moved or moved on.

    As for the previous post (I know...you disabled), Joel and i have been in heavy discussion about going to church in a few weeks. Not sure why...just feelin the need to reconnect I guess.

     
  • At 1:26 PM, Blogger Jon Cox said…

    I know how that feels. :o/ Great blog! I wish you the very best!

     
  • At 5:27 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    You aren't the only one who feels this way. My entire life I've always been the one that gets along with pretty much anyone. So I've always had one or two friends in each click but no real solid core group of friends. Even in my adult life I still feel that way.

    I try to get my friends together as much as possible. I feel that eventually a more solid group will start to form.

     
  • At 5:45 PM, Blogger Spider said…

    I think we all feel that way at times... just remember that it is important to be happy when you are alone... hard to remember at times, but it is... just my 2 cents...

     
  • At 6:52 AM, Blogger savante said…

    Hey you'll find your own set of FRIENDS, I'm sure, and soon you'll be having that cuppa in the coffeehouse with a crowd too.

    Till then be happy in your own company, sometimes it's the best :)

     
  • At 4:57 PM, Anonymous M@ said…

    Do you want the interaction, or the overt happiness? (or both)

    I know how you mean.

    It's hard to be happy when everyone else is grouped into laughter-pods. Join one of theirs. You're hot, smart and sweet. They'd bring you in in a heartbeat. THEN you can see if they make you laugh.

    Or you can do as I do: Laugh hysterically by yourself for no reason.

     
  • At 9:25 PM, Blogger hbjock said…

    Hmmm I know how you feel. I'm just thankful that every once in a while all my coworkers get together at a bar and have a blast together.

    But it would be nice to be like some other bloggers out there who have a "crew" that they hang with every day :)

     
  • At 5:47 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    It's a natural variable that some guys are more introspective than others. We'd all love to live it large, but doesn't that kinda get too old, too fast for those who do? I hang out with co-workers once in a while and that's it's not often is what makes it such a blast. Then there's the matter of quantity over quality. We, who read ur blog and who'd take u out for a pint in a blink, love u to bits 'cause we can relate to the sort of bloke you are as well as being somewhat alike, but we are scattered all over; how likely is it to find that kinda of sinergie on your doorstep?

     
  • At 6:03 PM, Blogger deanos said…

    Well, I am one of those people you see in Starbucks sitting with sometimes as many as 15 guys, chatting, laughing, gossiping, etc...
    Here is the kicker though...we ONLY talk at Starbucks. We are not friends, we are coffee buddies. My friends are the ones I am with and chat with throughout my day and weekend.
    Now do not get me wrong, my Starbucks crowd is fun every morning after the gym...and to catch up on the previous day, but they are not the ones I would share my deep secrets in life with.
    Bottom line, do not be taken back by these Starbuck Socialites...some of them are some of the lonliest people you could ever meet.

     
  • At 3:07 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I chat with the staff, there is a Starbucks in my building, and the people there are great. It's not a large store, so very few seats, but I understand what your saying. I sometimes think the busiest places are the most lonely.

     

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